stonehurler wrote:I read enough of this to finally form an opinion. If you are complaining about playing time, work harder and make the coach play you. Be better than the competition. If you choose to move to a new team because the coach doesn't play you, then you are in the grass is greener group and it never is. Tired of parents thinking their kid should play more so they move to a new team. Make your kid work to get on the field. These coaches want to win and they put the best on the field. Earn it!
stonehurler wrote:I read enough of this to finally form an opinion. If you are complaining about playing time, work harder and make the coach play you. Be better than the competition. If you choose to move to a new team because the coach doesn't play you, then you are in the grass is greener group and it never is. Tired of parents thinking their kid should play more so they move to a new team. Make your kid work to get on the field. These coaches want to win and they put the best on the field. Earn it!
stonehurler wrote:Easy answer Defty. It affects your own kid if you leave the team rather than fight for playing time. Teach your kid to work harder and earn their time. Every kid I know that leaves rather than fight, soon leaves again.
My daughter just went threw this in 12u. Her fielding is a little behind. But she is right there with the bat. But the coach would only give her like 1 AB in a 3 game friendly. So i said something and he cut my kid from the team. It crushed her because she has been putting in so much extra work to catch up. She has never worked for anything like that until now. I just dont understand the coaching behind that. I coached her in rec ball for 2 years. Never treated a kid like that.
What you say is however very ironic. Your answer way oversimplifies the reality of the playing time issue. You can not, in all situations, just work harder and earn your spot. In fact, most of the issues that I see posted on this board are issues that have persisted over time. I believe that is because there are so many different causes for these issues as well as many different possible solutions. That is why it is good to discuss them in depth so that the people that actually use their brains and stand up for what is right can this sport continue to move in a positive direction.
xyzdude wrote:My daughter just went threw this in 12u. Her fielding is a little behind. But she is right there with the bat. But the coach would only give her like 1 AB in a 3 game friendly. So i said something and he cut my kid from the team. It crushed her because she has been putting in so much extra work to catch up. She has never worked for anything like that until now. I just dont understand the coaching behind that. I coached her in rec ball for 2 years. Never treated a kid like that.What you say is however very ironic. Your answer way oversimplifies the reality of the playing time issue. You can not, in all situations, just work harder and earn your spot. In fact, most of the issues that I see posted on this board are issues that have persisted over time. I believe that is because there are so many different causes for these issues as well as many different possible solutions. That is why it is good to discuss them in depth so that the people that actually use their brains and stand up for what is right can this sport continue to move in a positive direction.
Unifying theme here; parents trying to control the environment around their children. In my opinion, this is not parenting this is controlling and there is a big difference. Trying to make everything "right" for your kid is an endless and ultimately meaningless effort. Helping them learn to overcome, work harder, speak for themselves, and ultimately make a decision that they need to move (to a different team) is the parent's job. So the work harder and earn it mentality is perhaps a better approach than pushing the blame to others and crying the age old, "she didn't get a fair opportunity" song. You may not be wrong about the song - but are you really helping your child? As much as folks decry coaches for not developing players, parents should accept equal blame for not developing their child into functioning adults and good people...