I think that speaking to your kid is a good point to bring up. Where some people might be able to say that they just didn't bring up that they do actually speak to their daughters before a decision is made, a lot of people are at fault for not asking first I'm sure. Also, a lot of decisions get made in the heat of the moment and people make poor decisions when they are worked up.
Also, although I believe that our daughters having fun is important, are we asking them if having fun is their main or only goal? When I talk to all of my kids I discuss the impact that their decisions have on multiple facets of their lives. Is going to softball on a scholarship a goal of theirs? Do they understand that a D1 scholarship is a long shot for many? Do they understand that college is expensive and that maybe mom and dad don't have the ability to pay for it? Do they know the impact that student loans will have on their lives in the future? Do they even want to go to college? Do they even want to play sports? Maybe they don't want to play on a team that is going no where. Maybe I don't want to sit their and watch them play on a team that is going no where.
Having solid communication with your kids will help you to see their side of things and visa versa (obviously). If you believe that kids should have the final say in all things then good luck blending their kale smoothies and doing their laundry when they're 30. If you don't seek their input then have fun visiting their rebellious butts in jail when they turn 18, or likely way before that.