by Blind Squirrel » Fri Mar 20, 2009 5:58 am
Ahh time and energy. Of course, what follows is just one ignoramus parent's opinion:
Some kids have the qualities that enable them to improve their game more when playing with/against bigger, stronger, faster and more experienced players, then if they were playing with their age group. Some kids are surely not going to benefit from playing up one level or two. I know playing different sports with my (3 years) older bother and his friends really helped me when I competed with kids my age.
There is a difference between 40' and 43' pitching. Especially for pitchers. I suspect college coaches would prefer to see how kids perform at 43', pitchers as well as hitters. We felt that the more experience our kid had hitting at 43', the better prepared she would be for facing college pitching.
Many folks care about going to Nationals. I often hear that it is because the kid will learn to deal with pressure. More than the pressure a 14/15 year old feels when they come to the plate knowing that coaches from big name D1s they would like to attend are watching them? My kid's first Nationals wasn't until she was 17. She never cared and neither did we. Just our way. The right way? Can't be objectively assessed.
We were worried about having a 14 year old in the dugout with 17/18 year olds. She did in fact hear about the kid who snuck out of her house in the middle of the night to sneak into her boyfriends house (I assume it was to prepare for the next day's calculus test). She heard about drug use and getting drunk. As a freshman in High School, she learned about other HS kids who hid drugs inside apples, knew kids who were on steriods and of course, kids who enjoyed getting drunk. She didn't need to be on the HS softball team or an 18G team to hear such things at the age of 14.
In retrospect, playing up seems like the right thing to do for my kid. No way of knowing for sure that it was the optimal route. It is certainly not the best course of action for all kids and I've seen some who suffered in that situation. I would only counsel folks to act based upon their own kid's abilities/psychological makeup and not the desire to have the opportunity to embarrass themselves by having their kid on a team where they are clearly overmatched, sitting on the bench and not improving. In such situations, the teammates know the kid doesn't belong, the kid knows it and the parents are (appropriately) looked at as fools.
John
10 years from now I'll wish I felt like I do these days.