Don't you wish??

[Love_the_Game]

Most parents walk around with blinders on. Other people can see that no matter how much money and time you spend your dd will never be a pitcher or never be a short stop, but the dd may have the speed and eye to be a great outfieder or the glove to be a 1st basement.

Coaches should never lie or mislead a parent about what position their dd will get the practise and play time at. Tell them up front that you will give the dd the opportunity at the desired position(s) but if their abilities show they are better suited at another position that will benefit the team then that is where they most likely will end up. If the parent(s) cannot live with this they need to take their dd else where because their will be 0 tolerance if the dd comes on board and the parent(s) start complaining.

As many of you have seen, great ball players end up out of the game because coaches will not tolerate abusive or unruley parents. Parents should realize that this is about the dd and not about their want to be and their ego. Please let the girls play!!

This is true. BUT -- the primary reason we play select ball isn't about developing the team. It is my DD and the best opportunity for her. If she is good at multiple positions, she shouldn't be penalized and have to always play where the team needs her the most. It won't be fun for her if she can't play where she really enjoys at least part of the time.

[HAMMER]

A lot of people have ideas were they think there kid should play, but if they do not understand that they are a part of a team they may not be learning the most important lesson. The best player for a position that makes the team the strongest, is were they will get the most playing time. If that is not ok with them they should look to play on another team. The problem is the same player wants to play on a good team and that is coached well. That is the reason they came to the team they are playing on. They just don't agree with one position that is the position that they are having to play. They should be at SS or 3rd or what ever, and the girl that plays that position is not that good. ha ha ha ! JUST WAIT UNTIL THEY GET ON THE 16U,18U OR HIGH SCHOOL! Those coaches don't care wear you want to play or your parents think your best suited ! The sooner the kid and the parents learn that, the better chance for them to have a softball career. I tell my DD work as hard as you can have a good attitude, and I will have her with good coaches. The rest will work out on its own. It's not that complicated !

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This is true. BUT -- the primary reason we play select ball isn't about developing the team. It is my DD and the best opportunity for her. If she is good at multiple positions, she shouldn't be penalized and have to always play where the team needs her the most. It won't be fun for her if she can't play where she really enjoys at least part of the time.[/quote]

Love_the_game

I am a parent and i'm also a softball fan and I love to see my children excel, but the main reason in any sport is the team. If your or my dd are excellant outfielders but so so pitchers or infielders a coach has the oblication to the team to play those players were it best helps the team. AS Hammer said if they make to High school or gold softball the coaches don't really care were they like to play they will play them were they best help the team. This could also mean scholarships for the dd.

The dd's will adjust and learn to love where they are playing.
One other point, be sure it is your dd's wants and not yours.

[Underdog]

Don't you wish??
Don't you wish there were a site where you could be warned of troublesome parents or players? I don't mean criminals, there is already a site for that. I mean the kind of psycho's that come to a team and basically screw it up. You know what I mean, parents that "know more than the coach", question every decision, etc... THe kind of people that seem so nice, until things don't go their way. Parents that leave a team because their princess did not the play the position that they felt they should be playing, then raised all kind of hell when they did not get their way? Don't you wish there were a more formal interview process when a kid joins your team? A "softball resume", filled with coach's recommendations? Perhaps this would make the parents out there think before spewing trash from their pie hole.



[/quote] the primary reason we play select ball isn't about developing the team. It is my DD and the best opportunity for her. If she is good at multiple positions, she shouldn't be penalized and have to always play where the team needs her the most. It won't be fun for her if she can't play where she really enjoys at least part of the time.[/quote]



Did it ever occur to you that a better team gets more exposure and plays more games and plays in better caliber tournaments therefore your dd might get noticed no matter where she plays (if she is good)?Softball is fun . Winning softball is more fun.Good players on crappy teams sometimes go unnoticed.

[Ifubuildit]

Sometimes good players on good teams go unnoticed too. Think about that one underdog.

[SBALLWARRIOR]

Most parents walk around with blinders on. Other people can see that no matter how much money and time you spend your dd will never be a pitcher or never be a short stop, but the dd may have the speed and eye to be a great outfieder or the glove to be a 1st basement.

Coaches should never lie or mislead a parent about what position their dd will get the practise and play time at. Tell them up front that you will give the dd the opportunity at the desired position(s) but if their abilities show they are better suited at another position that will benefit the team then that is where they most likely will end up. If the parent(s) cannot live with this they need to take their dd else where because their will be 0 tolerance if the dd comes on board and the parent(s) start complaining.

As many of you have seen, great ball players end up out of the game because coaches will not tolerate abusive or unruley parents. Parents should realize that this is about the dd and not about their want to be and their ego. Please let the girls play!!

This is true. BUT -- the primary reason we play select ball isn't about developing the team. It is my DD and the best opportunity for her. If she is good at multiple positions, she shouldn't be penalized and have to always play where the team needs her the most. It won't be fun for her if she can't play where she really enjoys at least part of the time.

You make a pretty good summation there for rec/league/or maybe "B" tournament ball. When or if your DD gets on a good "A" select team, then that is when it will be about the team. From your post, you can definitely tell it is all about your DD and not about what is best for the team.

A quality coach will always make decisions that are best for the whole team and won't really care what is best for your DD.

[It's All Good]

Whats really best for dd is to learn to play all the positions she can...it will make her a better player, better teammate and the kid that all coaches want. remember when she gets to high school and all she can do is play 3rd and they have a Junior stud 3rd baseman...guess where dd will be till she is a Junior...on the bench...

[pbj2000]

Whats really best for dd is to learn to play all the positions she can...it will make her a better player, better teammate and the kid that all coaches want. remember when she gets to high school and all she can do is play 3rd and they have a Junior stud 3rd baseman...guess where dd will be till she is a Junior...on the bench...

excellent point...I'm glad my dd plAys some 1st in rec, some 3rd in pool and rf in bracket...

[Underdog]

Sometimes good players on good teams go unnoticed too. Think about that one underdog.

I agree , that is correct

[Phantomz27]

Sometimes good players on good teams go unnoticed too. Think about that one underdog.

I agree , that is correct

Why is that? Because they haven't done their homework? I am curious.