Two great wise replies from rbi and ILB.
My kid learned so much about the game from her 12u coach. He helped fine tune her mental toughness and also taught the girls that they needed to understand the game to the point of anticipating the coach because once they took the field, the game was primarily in their hands.
We made the mistake of making too big a jump in 14s, playing 16s that fall. While she did well on the field against better competition, the drop off in the level of coaching was not worth it.
If your kid is 12u or 1st year 14, rbi's advice here is as good as it gets:
ALL the other stuff, wins and losses, the ASA National plaque's, people talking about how great your team is, all that stuff is temporary, learning the game early by a experienced positive coach at 12U/14U is priceless.