Follow up question to the posters who say once they join a team it's a commitment for the year.
Is there no deal-breaker for you?
Follow up question to the posters who say once they join a team it's a commitment for the year.
Is there no deal-breaker for you?
xyzdude wrote:Follow up question to the posters who say once they join a team it's a commitment for the year.
Is there no deal-breaker for you?
There are certain things that are understood when you join a team (at any age or level) that would be deal breakers for me:
-are the players safe
-is the environment appropriate for the age
-are the finances on the level
There are certain things that would not have been reasons that I would have let my child quit a team for:
-playing time
-position
-schedule
-demeanor of the coach/assistants
-things not being quite as good as advertised (are they ever)
-competitiveness of the team
We lived by this code because for us, sports is about learning how to live and thrive in the real world and we were always primarily concerned with helping our kids learn to be good people even if it may have set them back in their development as a player (or an actor, or a musician, or a student or an employee, or any of the other things my kids pursued). This requires the ability to see your kid be treated unfairly or not be the favored person all the time - that is how life works and we felt it was important to learn that fact even if it wasn't easy. One of our favorite expressions (and it became almost a family motto) is, "life's tough - get a helmet". Perhaps we were bad parents because we didn't let our kids quit in certain situations where they weren't being treated fairly - but from the rearview mirror I think that they are better people because of it. Just my opinion.
orange socks wrote:Zoran,
Apparently you have a beef with the team your DD is on, and you are ready to leave. Spill the beans so we can all chime in. This will result in a more productive dialogue that might help you with your decision to leave or stay.
Maybe I'm just confused but seems like a conflict in this.
On this deal breaker list is environment appropriate for the age? is it safe?
Then reasons not leave include
schedule and demeanor of coaches.
What then is the appropriate environment if it excludes the schedule and the demeanor of the coaches?